What Limitations Are You Choosing?
What limitations do you want to impose on your life?
A challenging question but it is one we each need to ask ourselves.
A friend of mine had her first child last month and I find it fascinating watching her watch her baby. There is such wonderment and love in her eyes, her face is soft, she smiles gently from deep within and the abundant love she has for her child is there for all to see. I really should take a photo of this so the child can see this love when she is grown and feel safe with it.
So what has this to do with the question of what limitations do you want to place on your life?
This new mother doesn’t want to place any limitations on this precious little one she is so in love with. For anyone we love and care about we don’t want to place limitations on them. We want our loved ones to live full, happy, healthy, complete lives.
So why do we forget to give this gift to ourselves? We need to have as much regard and affection, love and respect for ourselves that we have for our friends and family.
And if we don’t have love and respect, regard and affection for our friends then why are we friends with them?
If we don’t have it with family members then be part of positive change and bring it into your personal relationships within your family. It takes years but do you want to be part of keeping a dysfunctional relationship floundering or do you want to be part of making a dysfunctional relationship healthy?
The limitations we place on our lives inhibits our family life, work life, business, home life and friendships.
Sadly most of us do it. I know I do. I think mine is more subliminal than overtly showing itself in my language. But to seek freedom from our limitations can be one of the best ways to grow our businesses, to make the personal sea change come into reality and for it to be successful.
Sadly many of us get the message early on that our individual self worth is little. How this happens is for better skilled professionals than me to explore but the result is much the same – we have ceilings in our souls.
If you listen to any of the interviews with Olympic medallists they all say they believed it was possible – insurmountable problems in the way or not – they all believe the it is possible. If they thought it impossible it would be impossible and if they believe it possible it is possible.
This self belief in the possible isn’t arrogance or nasty attitudes, it is belief, it is what is necessary to achieve whatever it is that makes your heart sing.
Being fixed on a particular course or way of making something possible into a reality could be the limitation.
Listening to how Olympic Medallists explain how they did what was needed to achieve their success nearly always is the comment of adapting to the competitive environment and exploring what is possible – which one of your collection of skills will get you ahead of the others?
If you’re fixed on a particular way to do something, to achieve something then you’re limiting your options on how to be successful.
What if your market competitor is already doing it and you come across as a copier – someone lacking imagination and capability to do something fresh yourself?
What if it isn’t physically possible in the current conditions to do it that way and you’re meant to explore other ways – that the alternative path ends up being more rewarding and fulfilling – more successful?
Many of the limitations we place on ourselves come from the lack of options we realise exist.
Many others come from our fears within our spirits. Fears fester best in the darkness – hidden from the light knowledge through exploration and education brings.
If you’re frighten by something then find out more about it – read some magazines or books about it, talk with others who know something about it, give yourself the opportunity to shed light on the fear and see how it dissipates.
Many of us compare our insides to other’s outside and find ourselves lacking. But when we learn of anther’s insides we learn they are completely human like us and it is a much more equal relationship.
So I don’t think there is anyone who is without limitations but I know there are lots of people who break through their limitations to achieve their dreams and they are regular people who have insides just like ours. 🙂
So ask yourself the hard questions, make the break- throughs and live the life you want.